By saying no, you're saying yes

22 Jun 2020 | 2 minute read

As life unfolds, it's easy to get caught up in all opportunities lying in front of you. There simply are too many interesting things one could do at every given time, and navigating the vast ocean of ideas, projects and opportunities is challenging and stressful.

You made up your mind to do A, then someone comes with this amazing thing B, so you feel intrigued to do thing B, but should you then abandon thing A? But you can also do thing C, which is an idea proposed to do last week. But didn't you tell yourself that you were going to take some time off to relax? Maybe you should go to Myanmar on a 30-day meditation retreat? But who would then take care of the dog... Oh god, I forgot to walk the dog. Gotta walk the dog.

And life goes on and on and on and on.

The key is to say no.

Would that mean that one misses out on things? Yes. Absolutely.

But the gains are greater than the losses. By saying no to one thing, you're saying yes to things closer to your heart.

You see, if everything sounds like an interesting, potentially amazing, idea, nothing truly lies close to your heart. And you'll have to say no a few times, or many times, to find what truly sends shivers down your spine. But if you never say no, you'll always be caught up in someone else's dream, never creating the space to find what you find truly fascinating.

By saying no, you're saying yes to what's more important. What is more fascinating. Saying yes to the things that truly matter to you.

By saying no, you're creating more time and space to take care of yourself and unwind. Destress. Create emptiness.

And wouldn't you say, that's what most of us need?

By saying no, you're saying yes.

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  • Evelien Bijl (2020-11-02)

    Couldn't agree more! I love how simple and focused my life has become since I learned how to say yes only to the things that really matter to me. I like your blog a lot!